This is because if/when you find yourself marginalized, inevitably, you might find yourself in proximity to others who have experienced the same thing. Being marginalized becomes a common thread that helps draw many seemingly unrelated things together to make a whole of something else.
|A friend my daughter made turned up at gymnastics class in the same Target leotard. They were the two smallest in the class and accidentally dressing alike made them feel less small together.|
My daughter (and myself, for that matter), have had to deal with marginalization because of any number of reasons - both readily seen and not quite so apparent.
Whether it's how tall (we are or aren't), or the lightness or darkness of our skin, or the money/means we do or don't have, or the family members that are or aren't with us, or the languages it seems we should be able to speak but don't - there are plenty of things that have set us apart without us being able to help it at all.
Every day, as the world (with the lives within it), continues to torque itself into directions and along new paths that I can't even begin to agree with, I do my best to continue to have meaningful conversations with my daughter that will help her to keep being who/what she is despite the push back she might ever come against or be forced to see with her own eyes.
I know that in the grand scheme of things, no matter what any of us might agree with, it's more likely that we will be forced to deal with what we are left with vs. the things we wish would be or would prefer to have.
|At the National Harbor, my daughter made friends with some kids during a local homeschool meet-up.|
My daughter and I are different than those we have found to be standing next to on common grounds we never thought where we would all be together. The thing that we have found makes it work best is for us to see the differences for all they are and even to celebrate them by saying, "Yes. We are completely different and that's the best part about it."
The richness of differences that we have been found in others has helped us to see and LEARN things (in the life we do have) so that WE are helped so things are better but never less than what has been where we are.