Being a #girlmom challenges me every single day

My favorite student's #brotherdogs keep careful watch as she works on her hula hooping skills

I never dreamed I would be a #girlmom. I grew up with two older brothers and assumed that that was God's way of preparing me to be a boy mom.

Completely caught off guard

When I was pregnant, and I finally learned that I was pregnant with a little girl, it took me almost a full month to believe that it was true. I would even look at my growing belly and tell myself, "That's a girl in there. That's not a boy."

I would ask my doctor every week (because I had a high risk pregnancy and had to see a doctor at least once a week and sometimes twice), "Are you sure that maybe I am not actually having a boy? Are you sure you didn't maybe read the ultrasounds wrong and maybe it was little early to tell?"

My reasons for being challenged with being a #girlmom are ones that are entirely based on legitimized fears. No matter what anyone might think/say, when you are a girl/if you have a daughter, the world is very intimidating. There are ridiculous double-standards that come with being a girl. There are responsibilities that are too closely aligned with automatic shaming that will occur for any number of reasons. And there is so much more than that to discuss for even more blog posts than this.

Sometimes you just gotta deal with yourself

We have a saying in our family and it goes like this...

"Go deal with yourself."

That's the saying.

(And it's so commonly used that it might be one of only three things my daughter ever remembers from her childhood other than, "Stop doing that to Ducky. SERIOUSLY. STOP. IT.")

If there is one thing that I feel like challenges me more than anything of motherhood (and, in my case, being a #girlmom), it's that I want my daughter to always be thoughtful. I hope that she is intentional and deliberate. This is also a way of saying that I want my favorite student to say/do/be/think in ways that she won't look back and completely regret or (worse yet) resent how things play out. This is not to say that it won't happen to her so much as... I just want to help her mitigate her own impulsivity for impulsivity's sake.

Don't get me wrong. I know that the teen years are coming and then after that the "roaring 20s." (hahahaha - did you see what I did there? I know... I know... I'm not trying to quit my day job)

Still, I am always trying to think of ways to help her understand how much her actions and decisions (even the seemingly smallest ones) have real and sometimes serious consequences not unlike The Butterfly Effect.

Being Katniss might be the answer to it all

Are you a fan of The Hunger Games series? I gotta admit, I wasn't so much of a fan of it if only because it's kind of a disturbing idea (or even just a metaphor no matter if it does really apply to life) to confront. Putting aside the fact that people actually have to kill each other in order to get some of their most basic needs met, I do appreciate that the Hunger Games helped popularize the sport of archery!!!!

OMG. I cannot even tell you how much I think Archery RULES. And I really do think it's an art form of sorts. (Did you know that Geena Davis is an Olympic-level archer??? I KNOW. So cool.) Anyway. Archery...

I can't even begin to tell you long it took me to get my favorite student to be warm to the idea that being skilled at using a bow and arrow is maybe the best thing ever. We would talk about Disney Princesses and she would be all, "I think Rapunzel is my favorite."

I would counter with, "But what about Merida. Hmmm? Her hair is so cool and look... is that a BOW and ARROW that she has??? WHOA. Bow and Arrows are AMAZING."

It took almost THREE years to get my daughter to be receptive to it at all.

You know what finally did it? We did homeschooling for a year and I didn't even bring it up anymore and I just ordered it on Amazon and when it showed up and I was like, "Look!!! Amazon sent this to us!!! We are the proud owners of a BOW and ARROW set now!!!! How about that?!!!"

We now agree that archery is amazing

My daughter took to archery like you would have never known she preferred Rapunzel over Merida. It certainly helps that, when we have had contests to see who can even hit the target, she always hits the target.

(Uhmmm... I have a really hard time hitting the target but whatever. If you tried it? I bet you would see that it really is harder than it looks. This isn't me making excuses for my subpar archery prowess.)

I think this is from the first day we tried out the set. That's a victory dance that my daughter is doing BTW.

There are just so many reasons to love archery

I appreciate archery because it requires serious body control and thoughtfulness that all take in account amazing precision, hand-eye coordination, and targeted (no pun intended) strength.

I also love that participating requires thinking in terms of SAFETY of OTHERS and having to have patience to wait your turn. *smile*

(You can take the teacher out of the classroom but you can't take the classroom out of the teacher.)

We used archery for outdoor play and practicing math equations in homeschooling. Using archery to rack up and then add/multiply the points was so much fun to do. Archery also helped my favorite student to understand that (it's true) practice makes perfect AND  (if you are really tenacious) goal attainment is a lot more within your reach than you ever thought it could/would be.

Archery is also cheap, if done right

I am very VERY picky about what I choose and which (of many selections) I choose for my family (specifically when it's my favorite student).

It takes a LOT for me to invest any of my hard earned money because I don't have a lot of it to start. Also? I don't like to have to keep spending it over again after I have already spent it and especially if that's for the same thing. Meaning: I like to get stuff that has quality construction and really LASTS a good long while.

The cool thing about (if) you get the right archery stuff (and take care of it) is that it's reusable!!! We got our set (scroll up to the middle of the post for what we got) and I got extra sets of arrows so we could be lazy and just shoot them en masse if we wanted to and we have had the same ones for going on almost three years. They have all really held up well.


  1. Good stuff here Andrea - keep up the good work and keep people thinking!

    1. Thanks, Lou! Your comment is my first comment here on this blog. :) And you also really picked up what I'm trying to do - share things that promotes thoughtfulness.


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